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The light and the darkness...

It's been exactly one year since I started to teach yoga in Norway.

Moving away from my home city, friends and family, getting a new life and teaching yoga for living, I struggled a lot both emotionally and mentally. (You have no idea how many times I yell and think about giving up and go back Hong Kong :P) It was a big challenge of my life!

However, thank you for this "uneasy" journey, I am able to see the darkness, a.k.a self-doubt, fear and insecurity more and more. I was first trying to find a way to get the darkness away but later on, I realised to fully accept them is the only way. I understood they are here to remind me to trust and listen to myself but not to push me down. I also learned to appreciate the light and also accept the dark.

I am forever grateful for this journey and without you guys it will never happen. Thank you so much for those who practised with me in Stavanger and Hot Yoga Sola, thank you for all your help, trust and support.

Special thanks for Lise from Hot Yoga Sola for offering a chance to teach in such a beautiful and cozy studio; Energiverkstedet Connie Hvidberg Norup for renting out 44 kongsgata and always offering help and support.

Without you guys, I will never be able to stay in Norway and continued my teaching. I look forward to see/practice with you anytime and again, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!

Happiness is....having a cup of coffee 

Went to my favourite place to grab a coffee as usual, when I took the first sip of the coffee, and it’s not only taste like coffee because....
I taste joy;
I taste the smile from the waitress;
I taste the hard work of her;
I taste our nice conversation in the past;
I taste the time when I have coffee with friends;
I taste stavanger;
I taste a lot of good “ingredients” inside of it which made me feel so grateful of this coffee and made a good start of my week ❤️😊 I wish you a good week too, stay warm and remember happiness is always around, we just have to “taste” it more mindfully 🤗

What to do when we are suffering: Simple Steps to Take Care of Our Emotions

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It’s Okay To Have Negative Emotions

For more than 20 years, I used to deny my “negative emotions” because I thought it defines me as a weak, shameful, pathetic person. I have tried different approach to keep myself positive but none of it work on me. However, later I have found that by denying my emotions, I am also denying myself, which means I have never accepted myself truly and unconditionally.

According to my teacher, our emotions itself is neither good or bad. It is the language of our souls, the tools that our souls communicate with us. To create balance for our life and heal ourselves, we first need to take care of our emotions.

 

Reasons Of Taking Care Of Our Emotions

Have you been angry and said something you didn’t really meant to? Have you been hurt so bad that you are not able to feel anymore? Resisting our feelings causes them to simmer and intensify while compressing our emotions will turn us to numbness; both ways are disconnecting us to our souls.

Holding our suffering, looking deeply into it, we find a way to happiness.
— Thich Nhat Hanh

In Buddhism, suffering is a must for self-transformation. When we intend to feel our emotions rather than resisting it, we create more space for our bodies and also our minds. Once our negative emotions are no longer controlling us, we are able to look deeper and discover the seeds (cause) of suffering. As a result, we learn to transform it into peace and happiness.

 

Simple Steps For Taking Care Of Your Negative Emotion(s)

1.       Find a comfortable position, sit down or lie down are both fine.

2.       Close your eyes, check how do you feel at the moment without any judgment.

3.       Allow yourself to feel your emotion(s) and recognize the area you feel it the most.

4.       Start to breathe particularly to the area you feel your emotion(s) the most.

5.       Consciously breathing to that area; when you feel ready, simply talk to your emotions                       (silently) by saying, “Hello (anger/sadness/anxiety/jealousy, etc), it’s ok that you are here and I           am here taking care of you, let’s breathe together”

6.       Keep breathing until you feel relief.

The Journey to Self-Acceptance with My Stiff Body

“I’m not flexible, will I be able to do yoga?” The most common yoga question I ever heard. The answer is “Yes”, a BIG “Yes”. Of cause you are able to do yoga, yoga is for everyone.

A lot of people think they have to be flexible in order to do yoga, some people feel stressful and awkward in group classes where they can see very flexible people (advanced practitioner or naturally flexible). They feel shame when they are not able to touch their toes in forward bend. However, believe it or not, stiffness could be a blessing for our body to prevent us to over stretch ourselves.

After studying Yoga Anatomy, I understood more about body’s limitation of movement because of body proportion, bones, joints etc. I realized that neither being stiff or being flexible is perfect. Non-flexible people might found it very difficult to do various yoga poses while flexible people are easily over-stretch and lead to serious injury due to lack of body sensation.

In fact, stiffness is also a blessing on practicing self-acceptance. In a period of time I hated to go to yoga classes. Because I felt so upset whenever I see teachers or people who can easily make “perfect” yoga poses. I blamed myself and I forced myself to practice even I had injury in order to master those perfect poses. As a result, I never became “perfect” but ironically my injury became more serious.

I also realized I have never accepted who I am in the past. I always see perfection in others but being judgmental to myself. I see being stiff as a sin, I see imperfection of myself as a shame which is not true, totally wrong indeed. 

I believe our number one priority in our life is to love ourselves. In order to spread our love to others we first have to love ourselves. To love ourselves fully we first need to accept ourselves unconditionally. Accepting your imperfections is a primary approach of self-acceptance. Let’s be imperfect and grow together on and off the mats! Have a nice day :)


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