It’s Okay To Have Negative Emotions
For more than 20 years, I used to deny my “negative emotions” because I thought it defines me as a weak, shameful, pathetic person. I have tried different approach to keep myself positive but none of it work on me. However, later I have found that by denying my emotions, I am also denying myself, which means I have never accepted myself truly and unconditionally.
According to my teacher, our emotions itself is neither good or bad. It is the language of our souls, the tools that our souls communicate with us. To create balance for our life and heal ourselves, we first need to take care of our emotions.
Reasons Of Taking Care Of Our Emotions
Have you been angry and said something you didn’t really meant to? Have you been hurt so bad that you are not able to feel anymore? Resisting our feelings causes them to simmer and intensify while compressing our emotions will turn us to numbness; both ways are disconnecting us to our souls.
In Buddhism, suffering is a must for self-transformation. When we intend to feel our emotions rather than resisting it, we create more space for our bodies and also our minds. Once our negative emotions are no longer controlling us, we are able to look deeper and discover the seeds (cause) of suffering. As a result, we learn to transform it into peace and happiness.
Simple Steps For Taking Care Of Your Negative Emotion(s)
1. Find a comfortable position, sit down or lie down are both fine.
2. Close your eyes, check how do you feel at the moment without any judgment.
3. Allow yourself to feel your emotion(s) and recognize the area you feel it the most.
4. Start to breathe particularly to the area you feel your emotion(s) the most.
5. Consciously breathing to that area; when you feel ready, simply talk to your emotions (silently) by saying, “Hello (anger/sadness/anxiety/jealousy, etc), it’s ok that you are here and I am here taking care of you, let’s breathe together”
6. Keep breathing until you feel relief.